It’s impossible to keep up with what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ these days. Have you noticed that? I just got to thinking about it, and it really started to blow my mind. I live in constant fear of unintentionally offending someone simply because I find it unmanageable to keep up with what I can and cannot say. Ten years ago, when I was just beginning high school, the world was a very different place than it is today. Things that seemed outrageous just a short time ago are now the norm. Truths that seemed very simple to follow are now thought of as outdated morals. We are all slowly but surely being desensitized therefore more and more wrongs are becoming rights.
You guys, what is happening?! I’m not trying to call anyone out or make anyone feel bad, I am just trying to wrap my mind around it all. We’re living in a world where if it temporarily makes you feel good, it’s considered the right choice. But there comes a point in time where you have to make a serious decision. There can’t always be gray areas in life, and you can’t always just base all of your choices off of fleeting emotions. You have to choose what you believe, and you have to stick by it regardless of what may cross your path on any given day. So many of us don’t have distinct lines between what is good and what is bad, so we are all becoming molds of each other and basing our thoughts and beliefs on what the media and celebrities pelt into our ears.
There was a long period of time in my life where my lines were blurred. I knew what was right, but I wasn’t doing it. And let me tell you something – it made me absolutely miserable. There were definitely moments that felt like complete bliss, and I could have easily been fooled into thinking my lifestyle choices were good and were making me happy. But the depressing days far outweighed the fun nights and my confidence was completely depleted. It wasn’t until I decided to stand for something that I became the happy, confident girl I once was.
I’m currently a member of the LDS (Mormon) church, a church that is considered laughable to some people. I’ve heard all the cruel jokes, I’ve sat through lectures about how my church is a ‘cult,’ I’ve learned all about the fact that I’m apparently not a Christian (ha!), it seems to just never end. When I was younger and wasn’t yet sure what I believed, this malice really bothered me. It would cause me great sadness and make me want to abandon everything that made me who I was. But just within the past year, as I have done some soul searching and discovered what I actually believe to be true, the offense I once felt has gone away. I can now hear all the jokes and listen to people tell me their feelings, and I simply don’t get offended. Of course there are days when I still feel overwhelmed with the negativity that comes my way. But I know with 100% surety that the choices I am currently making are the right ones for me; therefore I’m open to hearing the opinions of others without feeling dejected.
I have a challenge for you. I want you to really dig deep and discover what your inner self believes to be right and true. Get back to your roots, back to the version of yourself that existed before outside influences changed you. If you find yourself constantly being offended, then in my opinion you are not firm and steadfast in your beliefs. The more comfortable you are with yourself and what you choose to do, the less that the opinions of others will matter to you. Live in a way that feels good and right. The fact of the matter is, when you are living truthfully and making choices that are right, confidence follows. And it’s this confidence that allows you to be comfortable with who you are and to avoid the feeling of being offended.
If you are not at this point yet, try your best to get there! The problem may very well be that you have lost your way, and you are on a path that wasn’t made for you. It’s so much easier to get distracted and lose yourself today than it used to be. But you can most definitely find your way again, and this culture of offensiveness can go away! Wouldn’t it be awesome if we were all so sure of ourselves that the phrase “you offended me” didn’t even exist anymore? Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could all talk about our varying beliefs respectfully without always being on the defense?
Everyone does not have to have the same beliefs, and I’m definitely not trying push mine onto you. Having different beliefs doesn’t equal hate. That’s a lie sold to us by the corrupt media who thrive on division. All I’m saying is that you need to have something that you stand for. And that thing you stand for shouldn’t be constantly fluctuating and changing. Truth doesn’t change; it always stays the same. It is one of the only constants that we have to rely on today. So find what you believe to be unwaveringly true. Go out there and don’t be afraid to completely change your direction. Become more aware of yourself and what brings you lasting happiness rather than temporary pleasure. It will change your life. We all have a seed of greatness within us. Find that seed, nourish that seed, and watch yourself blossom. Cling to the truth and let go of the bad. Let’s all try to be the best versions of ourselves, living as who we genuinely are!
Bright Blue Stone